Child is the father of man 'means a whole person is hidden inside the mind of a child. If we want a peaceful and developing society, then it becomes our responsibility to protect the minds of children from disturbance. A survey conducted by psychologists found that most of the parents who badly tortured their children were those who were neglected and victimized by their parents in childhood. We talked to psychologist Dr. pandey about all the mental problems of children. Come, let's know briefly.
There are many psychological problems related to children, such as academic mental problem, physical mental problem, any deficiency in the body, lack of concentration, irritability, etc. In such a situation, it should be seen whether the necessary vitamins like B12, B3 are sufficient or there is lack of hemoglobin in the child. If we look at it from a psychological point of view, today mix problems in children, ie mental, academic, psychological, physical all have mixed forms.
Academic problems
Significant changes were made in the government education policy in view of the problems faced by children regarding education, such as stress, fear, failure to commit / suicidal tendencies etc. But despite this, some mental problems still persist for the education of children between the ages of six and twelve years, especially the struggle to meet the expectations of their parents and teachers.
10 to 20% of children study so much due to competition that their social life becomes zero. Such children are always in tension. Regarding your performance, especially the child who is coming first for many years, then there is pressure on him to maintain it. It is not necessary that the child who has been first in first-second class, he should also come first in ninth. Brilliant students also go through ups and downs.
Parents of such children should encourage them to be social. You should be motivated to meet relatives and friends.
Give children a little space for other things besides studying.
It is a good thing to make a time table, but more than half the time is spent in it and for some time only for entertainment, this is not right. * Education is very important for the child, all that is needed is to develop interest and attachment in the hearts and minds of children.
In many schools, classes and programs are offered for children related to problems like behavior problems, academic problems, slow learners etc.
Do not ignore physical problems
Children who are weak in reading have to listen to the taunts of parents, which also makes them prone to stress and inferiority. The child may have a learning disorder problem or may have ADHD (Attention Defit Hyperactivity Disorder) or ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder). Parents-teachers should try to understand this problem of the child.
Autism disease is also associated with the brainstem. The child's sensory system is disturbed by this, due to which it does not remain like normal children. These children also need special care, love and encouragement.
Asperger, this is a minor problem of autism. In this, the child keeps less contact, speaks less and listens. Only yes-no talks more. Sometimes it is not known throughout life, due to which parents are unable to get any treatment. But if it is known in time, its treatment is possible. Still, very few people understand this problem.
There has been a change in the puberty period of girls over time. Now reaching 6-7 class, girls start getting periods. In such a situation, it becomes challenging for the parents to deal with it. Girls also get stressed and frustrated many times about this change of their body.
Parents of daughters, especially mothers, tell them about basic hormonal changes, periods, and care, safekeeping, etc. Daughters should explain that the more easily they take these things, the more relaxed and relaxed they will be.
Behavior problems
Behavior issue has become the biggest psychological problem among children today. There was a time when there were many children and their elder siblings were role models for the younger ones, but now the trend of single family and raising a single child has changed a lot.
Children being aggressive Aggressive behavior for children is a means of their wish. They lack patience. Teach the child to control his charge and convince him to express his feelings in words instead of physical medium. Explain to him that in this way his friends will also become more.
Talk to the child patiently and try to find out the reasons for his unusual behavior. He may be feeling unsafe himself. Your affection will soothe his mental anguish.
If there is a hyper child, then take it out of the house everyday, to the garden or playground. Where he could play freely, run around.
To insist
Make children aware of your situation. Explain to them about the moral value from the beginning, because this forms the foundation of good personality. When children are very young, due to hobbies and happiness, parents keep fulfilling every right and wrong demand of children, do not do this. On getting a little bigger than this, he gets cheered and he starts resorting to stubbornness to make his point heard.
Lying
Meet the child's teachers and talk about their habit of lying. Somewhere the child is not lying due to the strictness and fear of the parents or teachers. Instead of punishing the child for lying, try to find out the reasons for lying with love. If parents give children an open and healthy environment, then children should hardly lie.
Being timid and submissive
Often, children are shown fear of ghosts and darkness in their childhood by parents. All these things get entrenched somewhere in his inner heart. They do not know that by doing so - inadvertently they are undermining the confidence of their child. Do not do this. It would be better if the parents play adventurous games with children. Tell stories of brave and inspiring great people. If needed, do not hesitate to seek the help of personality improvement class or counselor.
Stealing or lifting things without telling them
picking things up without asking, that is, stealing indirectly etc. Many children do this unknowingly. It is called Clayto Mania. In this, the child does not necessarily have to carry valuables, he can also carry lots of pen-pencils etc.
When the child steals for the first time, keep calm. Assess and find the reason for the theft. By understanding the child's mental state and handling it with good examples and love, the child will definitely improve its mistakes. In today's age, children are growing up with an unsafe environment, flight of more than life's ambitions, fatigue, stress etc. New video games, play stations have reduced their outdoor activities, outdoor games etc. They also get entangled in different classes related to studies and their personality. In such a situation, children are not able to learn to live with ease, but all the time they are trained to compete, gain and compete. With all these, the child is not able to make more friends and he struggles with loneliness. In this way, from a psychological point of view, such children do not learn to be tolerant and cohesive with others. If parents make a slight change in their attitude, it can help a lot. Instead of comparing your child with other children, encourage the qualities that are present in it, if you unconditionally indulge your love and affection, then of course children will become confident and face every challenge in life. Also, physically, mentally and emotionally happy people can also be made.
Sexual problems emerging from exposure
These days, problems like seeing pornographic things on the Internet have also emerged among the children of fifth-sixth class. It is believed that due to the demand of studies and time, surfing the net, computer etc. has become an integral part of the life of children, but in some children where 25 things are seen to be useful, then 26th is also wrong and vulgar. Many times watching pornography increases their desire for experimentation. Learning Disability thrives. In such a situation, sex education becomes necessary. Also, children should be explained what is acceptable and what is not. Counselors say that they come across cases of children of third-fourths who go to the restroom in school where they play with their private parts. Masterbation etc. If a six-month-old boy plays with his penis, it is a normal thing. But if a child is 7-8 years old, it is considered abnormal. That's why parents keep a close watch on their children's behavior as well, because at this time they desperately need the right guidance of their loved ones, so that their development is normal about sex too, wrong things and glands do not flourish in the mind.
